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A fact as American as apple pie: I was neutered both sexually and socially. . What would we do, bump pussies? We had dial up then. Within the cultural imagination, Asian American men, gay or straight, are bottoms. But my intended point was a conviction I casually perpetuated as an irrefutable fact: that all gay Asian men are bottoms. The number of strangers who assume I'm a bottom—I do think some of that is racialized assumptions.
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